perf(proxy): use mutex-based connection pool (#7790)

* perf(proxy): use mutex-based connection pool

The proxy package (used for example by the forward plugin) utilized
an actor model where a single connManager goroutine managed
connection pooling via unbuffered channels (dial, yield, ret). This
design serialized all connection acquisition and release operations
through a single goroutine, creating a bottleneck under high
concurrency. This was observable as a performance degradation when
using a single upstream backend compared to multiple backends
(which sharded the bottleneck).

Changes:
- Removed dial, yield, and ret channels from the Transport struct.
- Removed the connManager goroutine's request processing loop.
- Implemented Dial() and Yield() using a sync.Mutex to protect the
  connection slice, allowing for fast concurrent access without
  context switching.
- Downgraded connManager to a simple background cleanup loop that
  only handles connection expiration on a ticker.
- Updated plugin/pkg/proxy/connect.go to use direct method calls
  instead of channel sends.
- Updated tests to reflect the removal of internal channels.

Benchmarks show that this change eliminates the single-backend
bottleneck. Now a single upstream backend performs on par with
multiple backends, and overall throughput is improved.

The implementation aligns with standard Go patterns for connection
pooling (e.g., net/http.Transport).

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

* fix: address PR review for persistent.go

- Named mutex field instead of embedding, to not expose
  Lock() and Unlock()
- Move stop check outside of lock in Yield()
- Close() without a separate goroutine
- Change stop channel to struct

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

* fix: address code review feedback for conn pool

- Switch from LIFO to FIFO connection selection for source port
  diversity, reducing DNS cache poisoning risk (RFC 5452).
- Remove "clear entire cache" optimization as it was LIFO-specific.
  FIFO naturally iterates and skips expired connections.
- Remove all goroutines for closing connections; collect connections
  while holding lock, close synchronously after releasing lock.

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

* fix: remove unused error consts

No longer utilised after refactoring the channel based approach.

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

* feat(forward): add max_idle_conns option

Add configurable connection pool limit for the forward plugin via
the max_idle_conns Corefile option.

Changes:
- Add SetMaxIdleConns to proxy
- Add maxIdleConns field to Forward struct
- Add max_idle_conns parsing in forward plugin setup
- Apply setting to each proxy during configuration
- Update forward plugin README with new option

By default the value is 0 (unbounded). When set, excess
connections returned to the pool are closed immediately
rather than cached.

Also add a yield related test.

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

* chore(proxy): simple Dial by closing conns inline

Remove toClose slice collection to reduce complexity. Instead close
expired connections directly while iterating. Reduces complexity with
negligible lock-time impact.

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

* chore: fewer explicit Unlock calls

Cleaner and less chance of forgetting to unlock on new possible
code paths.

Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

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Signed-off-by: Ville Vesilehto <ville@vesilehto.fi>

plugin/forward/setup.go

@@ -196,6 +196,7 @@ func parseStanza(c *caddy.Controller) (*Forward, error) {
 			}
 		}
 		f.proxies[i].SetExpire(f.expire)
+		f.proxies[i].SetMaxIdleConns(f.maxIdleConns)
 		f.proxies[i].GetHealthchecker().SetRecursionDesired(f.opts.HCRecursionDesired)
 		// when TLS is used, checks are set to tcp-tls
 		if f.opts.ForceTCP && transports[i] != transport.TLS {
@@ -311,6 +312,18 @@ func parseBlock(c *caddy.Controller, f *Forward) error {
 			return fmt.Errorf("expire can't be negative: %s", dur)
 		}
 		f.expire = dur
+	case "max_idle_conns":
+		if !c.NextArg() {
+			return c.ArgErr()
+		}
+		n, err := strconv.Atoi(c.Val())
+		if err != nil {
+			return err
+		}
+		if n < 0 {
+			return fmt.Errorf("max_idle_conns can't be negative: %d", n)
+		}
+		f.maxIdleConns = n
 	case "policy":
 		if !c.NextArg() {
 			return c.ArgErr()